Speeches...Serious & Fun!
Wedding Reception Speeches and Toasts
Wedding toasts were originally
a French custom. Bread was placed in a wine glass and passed around to the guests. The first person to reach the bread was
expected to enjoy good luck. Toasts are traditionally given males of the importance: the father of the bride, the groom and
the best man. The order of these toasts varies culturally, and today can be chosen by the bride and groom themselves, or together
with their families. Anyone may propose a toast at the ceremony. Most people proposing a toast will want to have time to prepare
and rehearse their speeches, so the person giving the toasts should be approached well before the wedding day. The groom and
the father of the bride usually give very thoughtful and emotional speeches, while the best man often chooses to be rather
comical, and perhaps not always tasteful. If this is of concern, discuss this beforehand to prevent any embarrassment. Speeches
should be short, sincere and discriminating. Humour, in good taste, can make a speech!
Introduction to Wedding Speeches
The speeches at the wedding reception are an enjoyable part of the day, giving all family
and friends the opportunity to have some light fun as the snippets into the back-ground and lives of the couple are being
If you are one of the privileged parties to be honoured with delivering a speech and
are a little apprehensive about giving a public talk, take heed with good preparation and practice you will be successful
in your endeavor on the day.
Order of Wedding Speeches
Traditionally, the bride's father's is first to make a speech followed by the groom's
father, the groom and lastly, the best man speech. It is also common for the best man or grromsmen to read messages or telegrams.
Invited guests may also make a speech.
These days, tradition need no be followed. In many weddings, speeches are made by both
parents of the bride and groom, typically the father of the bride, then the mother of the bride followed by the father of
the groom and then the mother of the groom.
It is also common for the bride to make a speech. Bridesmaids are also welcome to make
The order in which speakers deliver their speech should be considered by the bride and
groom. For example, the father of the groom or a memer of the bridal party may be an experienced public speaker, and be allowed
to speak first, settle the guests down, handle any loud guests and set the mood for the following speeches.
Some people may find public speaking to be daunting. Take this in to consideration.
If a member of the bridal party politely refuses to make a speeche, don't force them in to making a speech which may turn
out badly or create an awkward moment. This will not only spoil your wedding night, but also that of the unwilling speaker.