Checklist and Timeline
6 - 12 months before
the big day.
Decide on a date.
Make an appointment with Clergyman / Officiant.
Determine a budget.
Compose a guest list.
Set time, location of Ceremony, Rehearsal & Reception Venue.
Choose Professional Photographer / Videographer.
Shop for wedding gown: Several fittings will be required.
Obtain Floral & Music estimates; book services if possible.
Register with gift registry.
Select brides maids.
Pick a honeymoon destination: (renew passports & inoculations.)
Begin selection of a Caterer.
Set a date to order dresses for bridesmaids.
5 months before the big day.
Finalize guest lists.
Order invitations & announcements.
Order personal stationery & thank you notes.
Men choose attire.
Make honeymoon reservations.
Confirm delivery of bridal gown.
Make appointment for bridal portrait.
Order wedding cake.
Arrange transportation for the bridal party to & from ceremony/reception.
Go over details of reception with caterer / hotel manager.
If you are renting any equipment, reserve now. (arch, floral pillars etc.)
2 months before the big day.
Inform clergyman of all the details of your ceremony.
Keep a gift diary - send thank you notes as gifts arrive.
Fine tune guest list.
Plan rehearsal dinner.
Select attendants' gifts, grooms gift.
Check all services.
Make moving arrangements.
Final gown fitting.
Bridal portrait setting.
1 month before the big day.
Choose wedding bands.
Make room reservations for out of town guests.
Check wedding party apparel.
Confirm music arrangements & check selections.
Make reservations for bridesmaids' luncheon.
Discuss rehearsal dinner with hosts.
Marriage license. Check your state for requirements.
2 weeks before the big day.
Plan your wedding day hair style. (bring headpiece & veil).
Schedule hair appointment for day of wedding.
Final check on bridal party clothing.
Arrange for name & address change.
Check with caterer / reception venue with last minute changes.
1 week before the big day.
Remind rehearsal dinner guests of time / location.
Start honeymoon packing/shopping.
Wrap groom's & attendants' gifts.
Check wedding announcements, ready to mail day after wedding.
Schedule rehearsal for 1 - 2 days prior to wedding.
Remind wedding party of exact time & place.
Go over final details of ceremony & reception with all parties involved.
Assign small jobs to family/friends. (pick up guest book, cameras etc.)
1 day before the big day.
Have manicure & pedicure done.
Attend wedding rehearsal & dinner.
Give ushers guest list.
Hair & make-up.
Check wedding dress (pressing/steaming).
Have family member check ceremony/reception for left behind items.
Change of clothes. (if leaving for honeymoon).
Breath! Enjoy your day.
Helpful hint: Make an emergency kit: Include. . . .
Make-up, extra panty hose, bobby pins, safety pins, clear nail polish, comb, hair spray, hanky
or tissues, needle & thread (white), white chalk, aspirins, saltine crackers, band aid, toothpaste & brush, dental
floss, breath mints.
Sounds funny, but stranger things have happened.
As a Bridesmaid you have a strong supportive role you must play during the entire
wedding experience. Although the Maid of Honor may be there for the bride, your friend will also need your comfort and opinions
as well (in most cases). Below, bridesmaid101 lists some of the top Bridesmaid's duties:
If the bride asks about helping her with ideas on where to have the wedding, help her with scouting around and going to the
different places. It may be a great idea to drive so she can focus on each location.
If you have great penmanship it is always nice to volunteer to address at least some the invitations if the bride agrees.
Many times a bride may outsource her invitations but if they need to be addressed by the family, your help will be key in
reducing the load of tasks to complete.
Your friend may need help in ordering and choosing decorations and favors, your opinions may be helpful in making decisions
for narrowing down choices and making sure the decorations are in on time for the wedding, shower and bachelorette parties.
It is a major treat to go with the bride when she is shopping for her wedding dress. She may even invite you to be involved
in picking out the Bridesmaid Dresses. It is very important to help make sure the dresses are ordered and arrive in enough time
Make sure to pick up your bridesmaid dress in a "reasonable" amount of time in case of additional fittings.
Many times the groom does not want to go to register with his bride-to-be. You can be very supportive by going with your friend
to register for her wedding gifts as well as letting other guests know where the bride and groom are registered. This is a
very fun experience so take part in the choosing if she needs help.
Help the bride in the seating arrangement. This can be a very difficult process with the more people coming to the wedding.
Many times it makes it easier to draw out the tables and move people around until you have a close to perfect fit. Note: It
is very helpful to bring this drawing to the wedding just in case there are any mix-ups, you will save the day!
Help Plan the Bridal Shower with the Maid of Honor as well as the Bachelorette Party!
Be a good communicator with information. Many times information prior to a wedding does not reach everyone. Friends will appreciate
confirming plans of each shower and party as well as wedding day information.
Attend and help out during the rehearsal dinner. Many times the bride, groom and their families are pre-occupied and forget
about things which is where you can save the day by being supportive.
Assist the bride in getting into her dress and makeup
Ask if the bride needs anything (food, water, etc) all the way up till the time she is walking down the aisle. She will really
Assist the other bridesmaids on where to go and timing, especially if they show up late.
Help make sure the bride has privacy if she needs some quiet time before the ceremony.
Be the witness in the signing of the marriage license which is an honor!
Assist the guests to their seats and be social prior to the wedding. The guests love to see the bridesmaids and groomsmen
out and about.
Take some deep breaths and walk slow when you walk down the aisle since it is common to speed up. If a groomsman walks down
the aisle with you, make him refrain from talking or fooling around.
Always look for the unexpected since it is common for the most uncommon things to happen (i.e, something falling down at the
alter). If you are close enough, fix what needs to be fixin so the bride, groom and their families can focus on the ceremony.
If you are single, make sure to mingle and have a great time at the party! It is mandatory to catch the bridal bouquet :)
If you are with your partner, make sure to dance and socialize since it means a lot to the bride and groom (when they have
time to sit down) to see their friends having and creating a good time for themselves and the other guests.
Last, but not least, Provide moral support and be a great listener throughout the process since it is a very wonderful and
"positively" stressful time for your friend. You can really make the difference!
Make sure to take lots of pictures at the reception, wedding procession and aftarwards. Many forget to take pictures and the bride and groom will appreciate them!